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Listening means making space for what they are carrying before rushing towards solutions. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/69c4f2df84b83f008e857edd/97b3e68b-6744-4d3a-abcf-829bd9ffec7b/https%3A%2F%2Fchatgpt.com%2Fg%2Fg-p-6a5cdd180ccc8191a2ea94d3d15a56c8-pedro-visuals%2Fc%2F6aaed210-a810-83ed-8da1-091fbfc4495a%23%3A%7E%3Atext%3Dsome%252Dpain%252Dneeds%252Dcompany%252Dbefore%252Dsolutions%252Dlistening%252Dsupport.png News & Community - We tell people to speak. But what happens when they do? - Make it stand out Some pain needs company before it needs solutions. Support can sometimes mean staying with someone’s experience rather than trying to move them away from it too quickly. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/69c4f2df84b83f008e857edd/ee0feef8-f23f-4f6d-8e9d-64a21497da08/who-protects-the-person-inside-the-process-csa-support.png News & Community - We tell people to speak. But what happens when they do? - Make it stand out The system may protect the process, but who protects the person inside it? Families can be navigating multiple services while ordinary life, parenting and responsibility continue around them. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/69c4f2df84b83f008e857edd/32f04867-1041-4941-8636-eb1b37b676c2/4.png News & Community - We tell people to speak. But what happens when they do? - Make it stand out Awareness has to go somewhere. Seeing and talking create the possibility of listening, understanding and meaningful action, with protection as the destination. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/69c4f2df84b83f008e857edd/f4e37a07-f433-487b-a60a-5530dcf787bd/6.png News & Community - We tell people to speak. But what happens when they do? - Make it stand out Visibility matters because invisibility can protect the problem. Awareness should not depend on victims and survivors exposing their pain: the responsibility to notice, learn and speak belongs to all of us. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/69c4f2df84b83f008e857edd/18700e55-2d55-4fd0-8ee4-a1e1ae0c4e4d/the-shame-belongs-with-the-person-who-chose-to-abuse.png News & Community - We tell people to speak. But what happens when they do? - Make it stand out Responsibility sits with the abuser, not with the victim or survivor. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/69c4f2df84b83f008e857edd/279b7841-f373-4f47-8f5c-b477d3265d61/7.png News & Community - We tell people to speak. But what happens when they do? - Make it stand out Why I’ll wear the blue ribbon: not only to encourage people to speak, but to think about the responsibility we have when they do. 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I’m Pedro, a BACP-registered counsellor offering therapy in English and Spanish, online and in person in London Bridge and Greenwich. My work is trauma-informed, neurodivergence-aware and LGBTQIA+ affirming. https://www.pedrogarciacounselling.co.uk/news-community/why-am-i-being-treated-as-the-problem-understanding-the-angercredibility-trap-part-1 monthly 0.5 2026-07-23 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/69c4f2df84b83f008e857edd/7939f550-9241-4fa5-aeed-2f517fa2ec76/when-the-conversation-becomes-about-your-reaction-pedro-garcia-counselling.png News & Community - Why Am I Being Treated as the Problem? Understanding the Anger–Credibility Trap (Part 1) - Make it stand out When a concern becomes a judgement about your reaction, self-doubt can quickly take over. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/69c4f2df84b83f008e857edd/cd8570db-b0f3-4466-96c4-a177c2a0aad9/anger-credibility-trap-pedro-garcia-counselling.png News & Community - Why Am I Being Treated as the Problem? 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